Dancing on a Shifting Carpet
Welcome to June's Connections newsletter. The theme this month is about how to handle the uncertain feeling that many of us have in our lives right now. As I read many years ago, "don't worry about having the rug pulled from under your feet, learn to dance on a shifting carpet." From my conversations with clients recently this is how many are feeling. There is also some news from The Passion Test and Humanity Unites Brilliance and as always some fun stuff.Are you feeling that communication is getting really tricky recently? Things that would have been easy to handle are now driving you to distraction? Is your work place and home becoming a minefield for miscommunication, misunderstandings and high emotion?
This is an interesting time in our world, whether you believe that it is our current global fiscal situation or a shift in the universal energy (my preferred explanation of what is going on) that is effecting us and how we live in the world, many people are finding it is challenging. And not only that, but they are also finding challenges in situations that in the past they may have found slightly annoying but not to this extent. I know I can relate to that, can you?
I have been working with people recently who want to understand what is going in their lives. All the old methods of navigating through life don’t seem to be working as well any more. In fact issues that a lot of people thought they had dealt with have come back again full force into life. I know personally that I thought I had already dealt with what has come around again in my life recently. Beliefs around belonging, scarcity, deserving, to name a few. What I have seen is that the resolutions I thought I had found in the past were in fact band-aids on a deeper issue. And now, at this moment in time, we are being asked to go beyond the band-aid and truly resolve these things within ourselves.
I was speaking to a client recently who was having huge issues with someone at work. Their smug manner was patronising and her anger towards this colleague was unprecedented; it even kept her awake at night. I asked her what age she was when she felt this anger around the colleague – and she said 16. This is a great example of how we get triggered back into ‘old stuff’ that hasn’t truly been dealt with. Now is not the time to go outside of ourselves - in other words it is not about talking to the smug colleague about his manner and getting him to change – something that might have worked in the past – but instead to go inside and find out what is this showing us? If everything outside of me is a mirror then what am I not dealing with within myself?
It is time to do this inner work; in fact it is the only thing that is going to work right now because trying to change the world outside of ourselves simply no longer cuts it. Truth be told it never really worked but it felt like it did. We are being challenged on a personal level to totally own our ‘stuff’ and deal with it within ourselves.
How? Self-enquiry is one way, taking the time to delve inside and really allow ourselves to feel what is going on and what pain we are trying to avoid. As Pema Chodrun says in her book "When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times" - move towards the pain. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is also a useful tool at this time as it helps us release the old patterns of thought and move forward in a new way. I have been talking with people to help find their personal path through their life as it stands right now, deal with these extraordinary situations that arise seemingly out of nowhere and find the calm in the chaos. If you feel that you would like to get a handle on what is happening in your life then please do drop me a line and lets have a chat about having some ongoing support in your life, giving you new and powerful ways of handling whatever may arise in these interesting and ever changing times.