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articles: My Life Doesn’t Fit Anymore!
I often have conversations with my clients about their feeling that they no longer fit their current life, or it doesn’t fit them. Sometimes there is a feeling of bewilderment, of frustration or even anger.
There you are having worked so hard, strived to create a certain lifestyle, and after all this time and effort you find that it doesn’t fulfil you any more. You no longer look forward to the things that you used to enjoy, and even when things go well and you achieve your objectives, it is an empty victory.
Why is this? Why do we seemingly grow out of our life? Well because growing up never finishes. What interested us and gave us joy when we were twenty changes as we move through life.
But there is still the question about why it happens and dealing with the disappointment that it has. When we first choose our lifestyle - which includes career, where we want to live, our interests, hobbies, and the people we have fun with - we do so from the person we are in that moment. Our likes, dislikes, desires, beliefs, interests, and outside influences all have a bearing on what we choose.
However a lot of people who made a conscious choice about their life now find themselves disinterested and disillusioned. When I hear this I cheer! Why? Because it means that they are growing as a human beings. They are moving and changing and learning more about themselves, becoming more in tune with who they are. Often they also find that people they once had a lot in common with now longer feature in their lives. It is all an indication of how we all grow and evolve as we go through life. Things that may have been of interest in the past no longer are, and as those interests change so do life choices.
There are different phases in our life. This is a good thing. When we first start out we are looking to launch ourselves into the world. Only later, as we see what things are more important to us personally, as we define what our personal values are, do our life desires change too. Often this can involve a feeling of making a contribution in the world, being more focused outside of ourselves.
It really doesn’t matter what our choices are as long as they make us feel happy and fulfilled. They need to be an expression of who we are now. So if you are beginning to feel that your life doesn’t fit you anymore just know that it is fine. It is perfect time to explore all the possibilities that lie before you and you can start right now. Be bold, be outrageous and go for what would truly make you happy.
If you'd like any help with motivation, goals you'd like to achieve, or any other changes you'd like to make, then please call me for a free introductory life coaching consultation on +34 958 639 593
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